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Online EMDR Intensives in Arizona For People Pleasers

Online EMDR Intensives in Arizona For People Pleasers Online EMDR Intensives in Arizona For People Pleasers Online EMDR Intensives in Arizona For People Pleasers

 Ready to set boundaries, trust yourself, & rise into your full potential? 

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Are you exhausted from overthinking, overgiving, and feeling responsible for everyone else’s happiness?

You’re capable. Caring. Self-aware.


And yet, you keep putting everyone else ahead of yourself.


You may know exactly what you need to do—set the boundary, speak up, go after the opportunity, ask for more, or walk away—and still feel stuck when it is time to act.


You want to thrive, but too often you feel like you are surviving: overthinking, people-pleasing, burning out, and getting triggered in relationships.


Maybe you are tired of watching yourself repeat patterns you can clearly see but have not been able to shift. You may wonder why confidence, success, money, or the life you want can feel just out of reach, even though you know you are capable of more.


You are deeply capable of creating change—but it often takes more than simply thinking differently.


People-pleasing does not usually develop out of nowhere. It can be rooted in early experiences, relationships, and environments where staying small, keeping the peace, anticipating others’ needs, or earning approval felt necessary for connection, acceptance, or safety.


Those patterns may have helped you navigate life then. 


But they do not have to continue running your life now.


Through a focused EMDR Intensive, we can work with the deeper memories, beliefs, and emotional patterns underneath people-pleasing—so you are not just trying harder to act differently, but creating space for a more grounded, self-trusting way of being.


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What Would It Feel Like to Finally Choose Yourself?

What would it feel like to no longer be burned out from overgiving while under-serving your own life?


To stop pouring so much energy into everyone else’s needs, expectations, and comfort—and finally create space for your own desires, goals, rest, relationships, and dreams?


To feel more connected and secure in your relationships because you could express your needs, communicate honestly, and trust that you do not have to lose yourself to keep people close?


If you felt more in control of your life—your choices, your time, your career, your relationships, and the direction you are moving in—instead of feeling like life is simply happening to you?


Choosing yourself does not mean becoming selfish, cold, or disconnected from the people you love. 


It means recognizing that your needs matter, your desires matter, and you are allowed to take up space in your own life.


It can look like finally getting your needs met because you are able to name them. Setting a boundary and staying grounded in it.  


Speaking honestly in a relationship. Taking the opportunity you have been afraid to pursue. Charging what your work is worth. Letting yourself be seen. Resting without having to earn it.


As you begin to trust yourself more deeply, you may feel more confident going after the dreams, relationships, career growth, and financial goals that matter to you. You may feel less controlled by other people’s reactions and more able to step into your power.


You do not have to become someone else. You get to come back to the version of you that has been there all along—capable, worthy, clear, and ready to create a life that feels like your own.

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If Your Are Ready To...

  • Say no without overwhelming guilt, fear, or the need to overexplain
  • Feel more empowered and in control of your life
  • Stop people-pleasing and begin honoring your own needs
  • Set boundaries at work, with family, in friendships, and in relationships
  • Break free from burnout caused by overgiving and overfunctioning
  • Make decisions with more confidence and less second-guessing
  • Stop letting perfectionism keep you stuck or afraid to make mistakes
  • Believe in yourself and follow through on what you know you are capable of
  • Feel more secure in your worth and stop accepting less than you deserve
  • Start thriving in your career, relationships, finances, and sense of self


Then working together in an Online EMDR Intensive may be a powerful next step...

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You’re ready to put yourself first & I want to help you get there.

Hey, I’m Sarai. Nice to meet you!


My work is for the person who is tired of people-pleasing, fawning, overgiving, and losing themselves in relationships.


I get it because I have been there. I have been deep in the throes of people-pleasing—trying to keep the peace, anticipating everyone else’s needs, overexplaining, and confusing self-abandonment with being a good, caring person.


I also know that these patterns are not simply a lack of boundaries or confidence. Fawning, people-pleasing, and codependent patterns often develop as ways of creating safety, connection, acceptance, or control in relationships and environments where it once felt necessary to do so.


Many people who find their way to me are already deeply self-aware. They know they people-please. They know they want to set boundaries, stop overgiving, and feel more confident. They may understand exactly why the pattern is there—yet still find themselves repeating it, especially in relationships, at work, around family, or under stress.


That is because insight alone is not always enough.


 Through focused Online EMDR Intensives, we use dedicated, uninterrupted time to work with the deeper memories, beliefs, and protective responses that may still be running the show.


Rather than spending weeks only talking about the pattern or trying to force yourself to think differently, an intensive gives us space to focus deeply on one clear issue—such as people-pleasing, fawning, fear of rejection, difficulty setting boundaries, perfectionism, or feeling stuck around success and money.


With EMDR, somatic, nervous-system-informed support, and careful preparation and integration, we work toward helping your system recognize that it does not have to keep using the same old survival strategies to stay safe.


Step by step, you can begin to move beyond the survival patterns that once protected you and reclaim the most authentic version of yourself: the version who trusts her voice, honors her needs, sets boundaries, feels more secure in relationships, and goes after the life she truly wants.


You do not need to perform, impress, or have everything figured out before you begin. I show up as my real self in every session, and I invite you to do the same.


With safety, attunement, and trust, I will walk alongside you as you learn to choose yourself again.

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How an Online EMDR Intensive Can Help You Break Free From People Pleasing

People-pleasing is not usually something you can simply decide to stop doing. Even when you know you want to say no, set a boundary, speak up, or choose yourself, your body may still react with guilt, fear, anxiety, or the urge to make everyone else okay.


An Online EMDR Intensive gives us focused time to get underneath that pattern of people pleasing.


Instead of spending weeks only talking about why you people-please, we use a dedicated 3-hour block to focus on the experiences and beliefs that may still be keeping you stuck. We work gently and at your pace, with breaks whenever you need them.


The goal is not to turn you into someone who does not care about others. It is to help you feel safe enough to care about yourself, too.


As the old fear and pressure begin to loosen, you may find it easier to say no, express what you need, tolerate other people’s disappointment, trust your decisions, and show up more fully in your relationships, career, and life.

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More Information on Online EMDR Intensives For People Pleasers

My Training & Certifications

My work is grounded in extensive clinical training, ongoing education, and a deep respect for the fact that healing is both professional and personal work.


I earned my Bachelor of Arts in Psychology in 2009 and my Master of Social Work in 2014. To become independently licensed as an Arizona LCSW, I completed the required supervised clinical experience: at least 3,200 post-master’s clinical hours, including 1,600 hours of direct psychotherapy and 100 hours of clinical supervision.


I have been trained in and practicing EMDR since 2016. In 2026, I became EMDRIA Certified. EMDRIA Certification requires advanced EMDR training and consultation, including at least 50 EMDR sessions with 25 clients and 20 hours of consultation. Beginning in October 2026, I will continue my training toward becoming an EMDR Consultant.


My additional training includes:

  • Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, 2009
  • Master of Social Work, 2014
  • EMDR Training, 2016
  • Clinical Hypnotherapy Training, 2016
  • Training in Psychedelic-Assisted Care and Ayahuasca Integration, 2017–2021
  • Reiki Master, 2021
  • Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy Training, 2022
  • Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Training, 2023–2026
  • Awarded Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP), January 2026
  • Neurodynamic Breathwork Facilitator Training, 2025
  • EMDRIA Certification, 2026
  • Low-Dose Ketamine-Assisted EMDR, Level I Training, 2026
  • Holotropic Breathwork Facilitator Certification, anticipated October 2026
  • EMDR Consultant Training, beginning October 2026


I am always learning, growing, and continuing to refine my craft. I also dedicate time to my own inner work because I believe this matters. I do not ask clients to go places I am unwilling to explore within myself.


My approach to EMDR Intensives is shaped by both clinical experience and a genuine belief in the possibility of change. I bring skill, preparation, presence, and respect for your pace—while helping you move toward a life that feels more authentic, self-directed, and fully your own.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Please reach out below with the contact form if you have any other questions.

 An EMDR Intensive gives us more uninterrupted time to focus on what is bringing you in, without feeling like we are just getting started when the session has to end. It is offered online to Arizona residents and is designed to create space for a deeper, more focused therapeutic experience at a pace that feels manageable for you.

Right now, I begin with a 3-hour EMDR processing session rather than placing clients into a full-day format immediately. For many people, three hours is both meaningful and plenty for a first intensive. Afterward, we integrate, reassess, and decide together whether another intensive would be helpful.

What does the initial intensive include?

Your initial intensive is a three-part process:

  • A 2-hour preparation session
  • A 3-hour EMDR processing session
  • A 1-hour integration and reassessment session approximately one week later

During the preparation session, we build tools that help you feel grounded and supported. We also create a clear plan—essentially a map of what we will focus on during your EMDR day. That way, when the intensive arrives, we can settle in and move into the work rather than spending much of the session figuring out where to begin.

 

Intensives may be a good fit if you:

  • Have done inner work already and feel ready for a more focused therapeutic experience
  • Are currently in therapy and want to move beyond talking about an issue into deeper processing
  • Feel stuck in a repeating emotional pattern, memory, fear, belief, or trigger
  • Have a specific area you would like to focus on
  • Want more continuity than a standard weekly session can offer
  • Can arrange a quiet, private space and reduce obligations on the day of your intensive
  • Are open to preparing beforehand and allowing time for integration afterward

A consultation and preparation session help us determine together whether this format is appropriate for you right now.

 Not always. EMDR Intensives are not a one-size-fits-all service. Some people benefit from starting with regular weekly therapy, focusing first on stabilization and support, or choosing a different level of care.

Your readiness, current stress level, support system, history, and the issue you would like to address all matter. I will assess fit with you thoughtfully and ethically rather than assuming an intensive is the best choice for everyone.

 

EMDR Intensives are private pay, and I do not bill insurance directly. I can provide a superbill that outlines your preparation session, intensive session, and integration appointment.

Some clients may be eligible for partial out-of-network reimbursement. However, reimbursement is never guaranteed and depends entirely on your individual insurance plan. I encourage you to contact your insurance company directly before booking if reimbursement is important to you.

 No. It would not be ethical to promise a particular outcome, timeline, or “breakthrough.” Every person’s history, nervous system, goals, and healing process are different.

What I can say is that EMDR is a well-researched psychotherapy approach and is recognized in major clinical guidelines for trauma-related concerns. You can learn more about the broader research and evidence base through EMDRIA and the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs National Center for PTSD.

Our work will be tailored to you, with the goal of helping you process what feels unresolved and move toward the changes that matter to you—while honoring that healing is not linear and cannot be guaranteed.

 The initial Online EMDR Intensive package is $999. This includes:

  • A 2-hour preparation session
  • A 3-hour EMDR processing session
  • A 1-hour integration and reassessment session approximately one week later


Additional 3-hour EMDR Intensive sessions are $499. Each add-on includes the 3-hour processing session and a 1-hour integration and reassessment appointment.

Yes. Because EMDR is psychotherapy, you must be physically located in Arizona at the time of our online sessions. 

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You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. In your free consultation you will have the space to slow down, explore what you’re needing, and ask any questions about working together.

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Sarai Darbandi, LCSW, EMDR, SEP

I am an Online EMDR Intensive Therapist in Arizona Helping People Pleasers trust themselves, set boundaries, and go after their dreams.

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